Some breakups can pierce so deeply that you can barely do anything productive for some days.
Nevertheless, as bad as it gets, you still have to move on and try not to remember all the shared memories, but sometimes, your ex still surfaces somehow, and you can’t tell if they've fully moved on.
In case you are in doubts, here are 15 signs that show that this ex of yours can’t or hasn’t moved on.
With Someone New, Who Looks Like You
One sure sign that your former significant other hasn’t totally moved on is when he/she is dating someone new that looks just like you.
You can almost tell the mood of a person by the post they put up on social media. An ex that can’t move on would have post-breakup quotes and posts which your mutual friends can tell is about you.
They Ask If You Are Seeing Someone New
If you haven’t blocked your ex yet and they still have access to your phone number, the ones that are stuck usually like to keep up with your life, by asking if you are seeing someone new now.
Loose Ends Left Untied
Asides sharing memories, you probably shared some other tangible things and have stuff left in each other’s houses. One that is still hung up on you would find it hard getting their remaining things from your place.
The stalking part on social media is almost inevitable. Even when accounts have been put on private, some could go as far as opening a new account for the purpose of stalking.
They Want A Second Chance
Stalking is child’s play for some exes. When some exes can’t clearly move on, after they must have seen that you are the best thing that ever happened to them, they start expressing their desire to want you back.
They Contact You
Again, if you haven’t already blocked your ex who probably wants you back, they contact you through your emails, social media or your number.
They Ask About You
If they are not able to contact you directly because of how things ended or because you have blocked them, they are most likely going to ask a mutual friend about how you are faring.
Talk About The Past
In cases where they get through to you, and you both don’t mind remaining just friends, an ex that can’t move one would always bring up memories from the past.
To err is human, to forgive is divine. Your ex knows this and would try to apologize repeatedly, especially if they caused the split, or didn’t like how things ended and would want a fresh slate.
Aside from bringing up old memories, they might also try to use the lingua that you are used to when you were together. They flirt and give compliments just like when your relationship was still good.
They Ask About Family
Before the breakup, you probably introduced your ex to your family, and everyone was familiar with him or her. When they can’t move on, they ask about your family and try to show care for your loved ones.
They Want A Friendship
A second chance might not be possible anymore, but some of them wouldn’t mind getting you back as their friend. That way, they still have access to your life.
They Tell You What’s Up With Them
To show that they have changed, or have improved on their lives, exes that can’t move on always find a way to bring up what they have achieved, especially something that you were aware of when they were trying to achieve it.
You Just Know
Talk about gut feeling. Sometimes, you just can tell that your ex hasn’t moved on. In order to be sure you are not just making up things in your head, you can find a way to talk about it